Thursday, August 24, 2017

I am so sad!

I am feeling so so so sad and I just need to write about it somewhere.
I don't want to put this on facebook.*

A few days ago I got the news that a friend of my sons passed away suddenly during the night.  His wife tried to wake him and then cpr but it was too late.  He was 24, got married earlier this year and was the nicest young man you could ever meet.

Matthew loved everyone, he accepted everyone, he was zany and crazy and had an amazing sense of humor.

If I ever wondered what Jesus was like it was Matthew.  He believed and yet there was absolutely no judgment in him.  He happily sat down with the "sinners"  they all called him friend.

He was smart and fun and following his dreams.

He had so much life ahead of him.

We all kind of think like we will live until an old age and thats not necessarily true.  In the blink of an eye you could be gone!

This has made me wonder about my own life.  Am I living for God?  Can people see that in me and the way that I treat them?  Am I following my dreams?  Am I trying new things and being passionate about life?  Do my family know that I love them?  The way Matthews family and wife did?  If I die have a left behind a legacy of love?  Or a legacy of mediocre?  I want it to be love, like Matt has.


Andie ( who will be back to blogging about happier things soon)

* I did not want to put this on FB and make Matts family sad.  I am not his family or even a close friend, just someone who has been touched by his kindness, friendliness and the way he lived his life.  Matt was a very good friend to my son, in fact all Matts friends say "one of my best friends"  He was that kind of person.  I miss knowing he is in the world.  It really sucks


Marilyn said...

Even though you weren't close to him, he touched your heart.
I hope you feel better soon.
Take care.

Pauline said...

At this age, (53) I often wonder what my leagacy will be that I leave behind too and even though I live a 'good' life, wonder if its enough... Thanks for a thought-provoking post, and putting into words something that I've been pondering lately.... hugs to you ((Andie))

Jo who can't think of a clever nickname said...

So sorry to hear about your son's friend. Sudden Adult Death Syndrome is not one we often hear about but it is all the more shocking for being so unexpected. We lost my Uncle a couple of years ago and are still struggling to make sense of it all.
You are right, we should all think about how we are living now and make the most of every moment we have.
I will definitely have fond memories of you as one of the first online stitchers I got to know!

stitchersanon said...

It's really hard, I know. I'm living with cancer and I loose so many friends, far too young. It is impossible not to be touched when it is someone who is the same age as our own children, who is wonderful and who deserved to bless the world with their presence for far longer.

I don't know what to say other than to share what my neighbours tell me all the time. I live in rural Ireland, surrounded by farmers and people who form a community. If there is a death, everyone goes to the funeral, to the wake and to the removal. It's a community affair.

They see me, are surprised I'm still breathing, and say 'Sure, we none of us know if we will be here tomorrow'. It is actually quite comforting and it helps me to stay in the 'now', to worry less about tomorrow when I may not be here for my children.

All you can do is your best for today. Be the person you want to be, just today. Don't worry about tomorrow...sure, we none of us know if we will be here ;-)

Just do your best to be your best. It's all any of us can do.

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